Don’t live a life where people are telling you what to do, it’s your fault if your being used by people. Don’t be unquestionably obedient and don’t be easily defeated for the sake of avoiding confrontation. If you feel you are always being taken advantage of then it’s time to take a stand and stop being a wimp.
Know Who You Want To Be
You need a strong foundation, you need to know exactly who you are, what you want to do and what you don’t want to do. Learn to be more selfish, respect yourself more than you respect other people, indulge in your own desires. If your life could be any way how would it be? Ask yourself this question every day, you will know if you are doing something you like. If you find yourself doing something you don’t like then maybe it’s time for a change.
A good way to find out the type of person you want to be is to look at yourself through other peoples eyes. What do people see you as? If people see you as a different person than you feel then you are not acting like the person you want to be. If you want to appear as a strong person then you need to appear as a strong person. If you want to appear as a leader you need to be confident and decisive like a leader. People will treat you in the way that you allow them to.
Express How You Feel About Things
If you are going through life acting like your ok about the way your treated then you are going to continue to be treated that way. People don’t consider how others feel about what they do, you need to make it clear how you feel about things. They may not even realise you didn’t like how you were treated. If someones taking advantage of you then confront them, tell them how you feel and you’ll be amazed at the result.
Pick Your Battles
Telling you boss to go f**k it may be detrimental to your career, just like telling a crazy driver to slow down may result in serious road rage. Start off solving the small annoyances in your life before they escalate, if someone tries to use you then nip it in the bud before it becomes acceptable. But if you find yourself wanting to have a go at your boss every day then it may be time for you to take a risk and leave your job.
Change Your Environment
Don’t put yourself in a horrible job and then complain about how horrible it is, acting like it’s not your fault your boos uses you. You have you remember you chose your boss. Like I said earlier if you find yourself being used by people everyday then you need to change the people you surround yourself with. Find out more about who to surround yourself with.
Enjoy your new found confidence and decisiveness. But be careful not to turn into the very people you tried to overcome, don’t use people.